Romance novels = sexual agenda?

Romance novels = sexual agendas?
I think a lot of people equate a ‘romance’ novel as a trashy, sex-filled story that has no plot, only characters that ‘do it like bunnies’ for hundreds of pages. Don’t believe me? Look at some of the covers out there. What do you see? Horses and wind-swept cliffs with beautiful sunsets? Picnic settings with two people barely touching, clinking champagne glasses, in silhouette, no less so you can’t see their faces? How about Moms, in bed, slippers on, kids romping around them, jumping up and down on the mattress.
Of course not. There are bare chests. Groping hands. Half-torn sleeves. Slick bodies that are meant to entice, arouse and otherwise, create the expectation of some sort of sexual encounter.
So then, does that mean the whole book is filled that that one naked chest, walking around and having conversations (from his headless bodies — I challenge you to go look at some of the romance covers out there) only to plow into some form of an escapade with whomever he follows?
Of course not again. Those covers are a marketing ploy. Guess what? This reader (that means: me) has never once bought one of those books. Why? They are actually a complete turn off to me. They don’t entice me. That’s probably why I write more mystery and suspense than I do straight ‘romance’.
Let me get on thing clear: a Romance novel is not a plotless book with nothing but a sexual agenda.
It’s a love story. It’s a story where the plot centers around the relationship between two main characters. It’s a way of showing off the problems, excitement, pitfalls and Mt. Everest-like situations two people find themselves in to progress from ‘interested’ in each other, to ‘madly in love’. The beauty of reading a Romance is that you know one thing for the end : it will have a ‘happily ever after‘. Oh yes, a true Romance will end … well.
Reading a romance, to me, is a way of reminding me what it was like to fall in love the first time. The tingly sensations in my fingertips anytime I’d see his face. The smile that bloomed when his did the same. The deep and desperate desire to be with him, even just for a few minutes. The tug on my heart at his departure and the rekindling when more than just a few moments passed while separated.
If you’ll note … none of those facets are sexual. They are emotional.
When I read a Romance, I read for the emotion and the desire of two who people are willing desperate to make their relationship happen. And no, that’s not like saying “I read Playboy for the articles”. C’mon … first, I don’t read Playboy. Second … if I did? It wouldn’t be for the articles. 😉
Is there sex in romance novels? In a lot, yes. There is in horror, suspense, literary fiction, mystery … you name it, too … if there are people, there may be sex.
So then you might say, there’s way more of it in Romance, right? Like 50%? Try 3-5% of the story. Now, this probably isn’t scientific, but I have a few hundred romances on my bookshelf. If I cull through, say 10 of them, I will find 1-2 with no sex (and by this I mean anything beyond second base). ~5 with 1-2 scenes of sexual activity and the rest have *maybe* three scenes.
If a scene takes up 10 pages and a book is generally 300-400 pages, that puts the heavy-hitters of Romance with 7.5% of the words dedicated to ‘sex.’
That leaves 92.5% of the story for everything else. Everything else! See what I mean? A 92% in college was an ‘A’ … so ‘A’ for plot, tension, conflict, passion and romance that is not sexual.
So no. Just because it’s a Romance, doesn’t mean there will be sex.
Now that I’m off my soapbox (and no comment on my own novels), what do you equate with books your read? No matter their genre, do you have a belief about certain novels that has been changed by reading one? Share in the comments!
We’ve already voiced our opinions to each other about headless men on covers, so I’ll skim over that. 😉
I’m actually a little surprised by this blog post. I’ve been writing romance a while now, and not for one minute did I realise I’d actually created something plot-driven, character-driven, with conflict and tension. Wheeeeeeeeeee! I’ve created a real book. (which makes me sound a little like Pinocchio in his moment of magic).
Nah, I’m just kidding. It’s about time folks quit stereotyping romance novels as brainless sex-fests for sad housewives to read. The pocket these (tonnes of) decent novels have been slotted into is getting a little threadbare.
Great post. 🙂
::snort:: Surprised? 😉 Ha! LOL
I completely agree. Who decided women were interested only in pecs and biceps. Those covers are a huge turnoff, but also help me filter out the stuff I’m sure I don’t want to read. I mean is it possible there’s a real story behind one of those covers? Good post.
@Sasha : I’m going to guess male marketing heads who took the ‘If we’re marketing to women readers, let’s appeal to their libido instead of their mind’ 😉 But hey, then again, maybe those stories aren’t anything more than sexual scenes? I wouldn’t know because I don’t buy them! 🙂
I actually prefer a build-up to a love scene over a novel that’s just riddled with them. Sex on every other page takes the fun out of it! It’s the tension between characters that’s most exciting 😉 You are right – there must be a plot to keep my interest. And I do so love a happy ending 🙂 Great post Aimee!
I’m with you 100% Keri. I LOVE the build up all the way to the moment. 🙂
Not quite sure what to say. I just uploaded new covers that have lots of skin for my romance novels, and I have to admit, I do buy books with hot, shirtless men on the cover.
I like to read about sex. I like to write about sex. One of the comments I got from a reader today was that I write good relationships with lots of steamy action, so I think a book (and a relationship) can have both.
Everyone has their own tastes in reading. Mine just happens to be on the spicy side. 😉
@Amelia: Don’t get me wrong … *I* have no problem with sex in novels. It’s been interesting to me, though, to read about readers and their preferences for ‘Romance.’ While I can’t stand naked-man-chests on covers, I have no problem with sexual tension or actual scene in the novels themselves. If I’m not in the mood for it while reading, I’ll skip it.
But it makes me wonder how many people ASSUME that by virtue of being a romance, there will be sex in the novel and does that turn anyone away (from Romance) like a naked man chest on a cover does to me. 🙂
Thanks for the comment! 🙂
I think it’s really a matter of taste. Nothing wrong with a little (or lot of) sex in romance. It’s more about properly labeling a work so the reader knows what to expect. Are we looking at a sweet romance or an erotic romance?
As for me, I like one good, hot and sweaty sex scene in my romances, maybe two. 🙂 The main reason is I find most authors get a little stale in the presentation, as if they copied and pasted from the last sex scene and changed a handful of words. On the other hand, I admit to being a bit disappointed when there’s no sex in the romance or it’s glossed over. If the cover screams sweet romance (a sunset with the couple holding hands), I won’t touch it. I’ll take a headless set of pecks and wicked abs any day over that.
You’re, too funny, Reena. 😉 I know for me, the scene has to be still very in-character with … the characters. 🙂 I’m with you on the cover telling a little of it, but does it have to give it away? 🙂
And I think the bigger issue is that *some* people think Romance = sex and not all romance has sex or has various levels of sexual interaction.
I’m probably in that 7% (so the high end) but I write with very little ‘word usage’ if that makes sense. And that’s still not the point of my stories, so I want my cover to be about the plot … not the sex. 🙂
I write romance, so maybe I’m baised. But before I wrote it, I read it. Still do. IMHO, even a suspense or murder mystery is better when there’s some romance. That’s why I like Dean Koontz. I get paranormal. I get mystery. I get romance. I also like Joanna Lindsey, Amanda Quick, Jane Ann Krantz, Emilie Rose, and all those other romance novels with bodice ripper covers. I don’t care about the cover. I read the back blurb of a book to decide if I want to read it or not. And if there’s sex, great. I like sex. lol! I’m not into erotica. I like more emotion in my romances. Then again, I’ve never read an erotic novel, so maybe I’m missing something. To me, the main criteria for a book is an HEA or at least a satisfying ending. And between chapter 1 and the end, I want to be engaged in the story. If a writer can do that, then, I’m hooked. Even if headless half-naked me do grace the cover…
I’m totally with you on the emotion. That’s the most satisfying part of the entire novel to me. 🙂 The little erotica I’ve read was not very ’emotional’, but then again, that was very ‘little’ of my experience. 🙂
I think my problem is that I DO look at covers. Covers are what catches my eye. I have and probably will, continue to be 100% totally biased by a cover. 🙂
If I can get passed that barrier and the story is engaging, I will likely become a fan of the writer for life. 🙂 And then covers don’t matter. 🙂
I must admit, I have “hidden” books before when reading on the beach because the cover looked sleezy. lol! Luckily, none of my books have had bodice ripper covers. And it is luck. Like you said, the naked men on the covers is a marketing ploy and most authors have no say as to what the cover looks like. And I have seen some really ugly covers on some otherwise, great books. Some one recently posted a website that had pics of the worst romance novel covers awhile back. Looking at them, I couldn’t stop laughing. Some were really awful!
I’ve seen that link. hehehehehehe. They are terrible! What were ‘they’ thinking? 😉 I will say the beauty of a Kindle is that the covers stay hidden so you could get the raunchiest kind alive … an no one … would … know. 😉 Shhhhhhhh! 🙂
I love the coverless feature of Kindle and other eReaders. My youngest daughter is reading a JR Ward novel. It goes without saying, she’s not allowed to bring that into church. On the other hand, my Kindle goes everywhere. The bible is probably sitting between erotica and horror right now.
Ha, Reena! That’s just blasphemous! 😉 Ha! LOL
Steven Tyler said it best when he said “Never judge a book by its cover”. :p
Those novels you’re talking about? I call them mommy eye candy That saying, one of my favorite romance novel authors is Connie Mason. Sure she’s a little raunchy but I can always count on her to tell a story of two people falling deeply in love. Sometimes in exotic locations. That she throws in a strong female lead helps too.
When I hear the word ‘romance’ I have an expectation of some sexual encounter. That doesn’t mean the old ‘insert Tab A into Slot B’ either. That sexual tension that comes from two people who feel that tug on their heart. Make me feel it and you’ll have me hooked. 🙂
I agree with you, Pam. Make me feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeel it. 😉 Unfortunately, I am a book judger. 😉 Covers will make or break a sale for me. 🙂
Do I get to be the first man to weigh in on this? Cool!
The same stereotyping happens with horror as well. It’s gotten to the point where I’m not sure I actually write horror. Like romance, maybe 7-8% of my book has actual horrifying scenes. Funnily enough it has same amount of sex or near sex scenes I have in it.
I actually think Romance has the same opportunities as Horror to use different genres. Yes there are Roance novels out there that deserve the stereotype just as there are several Horror books thatare gorefests. Unfortunately, the rest of them (good books with strong plots and even stronger characters) are lumped in with the bad ones.
No, I don’t read Romance but I may have to. I met Susanna Kearsely and she gave me one of her mystery/romance novels to cut my teeth on.
Wheeeeeeee! Yeah, Dale! 🙂 Romance has about 10 subgenres. 🙂 There are two (Inspirational and ‘Sweet’) that pretty much stay above the neck. 😉 I like knowing that other genres have this ‘problem.’ Like you, I don’t read horror (I’m a scaredy cat) and gotta know there’s going to be an HEA. 🙂 Maybe we both have stuff to learn. 😉
Way back, long ago, I remember when we here at Adam & Eve couldn’t show a mood shot that didn’t contain a head. “You’re depersonalizing,” we were told. Nowadays headless mood shots are everywhere, and I’ve been extremely disappointed to see the practice used on romance books.
Such books do indeed tell me what kind of romance they’re advertising. I’m not interested in such, as I, too, am a plot and character person. I see that entire romance publishing empires have been built on hardcore romance, but I have yet to read one of their books that interested me in the slightest. Guess I’m just a prude.
Though I was tempted to do a headless shot for my latest book. Surely it would increase sales? Don’t worry; the impulse lasted only a second. Well, maybe three. But the guy there is shown full-body, though his head is turned away/in shadow, a la “Romancing the Stone” and any score of Frank Frazetta barbarian covers (whose style I was attempting to find inspiration from).
I say: depersonalize the cover and you depersonalize the book. Who wants to read a depersonalized romance?
Okay, Carol, coming from someone at Adam & Even (which I know nothing about ::cough:: and have never been to the website ::cough::) I am so glad to hear your views! 🙂 hehehehehe And I also think that inherently makes you a non-prude. 😉
Ahh, you mean Wyatt and Charley won’t have sex like bunnies in LWL? Rats!!! 🙁 Just kidding. I, too, love the buildup to the great romance, the first kiss, and … other things… 😉
Really great post. I’m not a big fan of the naked chest and ab covers, either, mostly because they’re just overdone.
Ha! Jo … I didn’t SAY that. 😉 🙂